My transition from polyamory to monoamory
Until 2022, I identified my relationship orientation as polyamorous. I didn't have any committed partners, though there were insecure emotional entanglements. For me polyamory meant a focus on nurturance rather than on ownership, on trust rather than on insecurities, and on commitments that are timeless. Relationships which have no starting point, no end point. Verb rather than noun. Valuing emotional connection and attument rather than labels. It meant that I won't restrain love, or make exclusive partnership commitment to anyone, that I would keep my love available for people who may need it the most and whom I have resources to nurture. Even though I was single, I identified myself as polyamorous, which is a valid choice for polyamorous people yet often misunderstood. By the beginning of 2023, I had transitioned to monogamish/monoamorous notions and had conveyed to my parents about my readiness for monogamous marriage. I no longer identify my relationship orientation as pol...