Energy Communication

I have had a fairly good vocabulary. I believe that I think rationally and in an organised manner and express myself coherently. The conflict between my thoughts, statements, actions is also lesser today than they have been yesterday. Yet, there is a skill of communication that I have missed upon and am new to learning - energy communication or vibe communication. Though I have been practising it in some form, I hadn't identified it clearly before. My writings tended to appear like legal documents, and the vibe it created was sometimes that of antagonism as opposed to that of compersion.

When in a communication, words and logics matter less than the vibe or energy level of participants, that's energy communication. It doesn't matter who said what. What matters is the energy - was the colour of expression green or red or other? were the vibes comforting or fear inducing?  Imagine yourself sitting opposite to someone, and observing rays of many colours coming out of the mouth of the other person when they speak. Imagine no words, no meanings, only the colour coming from their words, body, environment.  While speaking, think not about the meaning of your words but the energy or vibe you present to the other person. One advantage of such perspective towards communication is that it nudges us to not hold on to words and see them as transient energy. It nudges us to focus on 'dharma', what we ought to do, what values we choose to imbibe in our identity to guide our actions, rather than on acquirement, or checkposts, or holding on to things which ought to be transient.

Taking cues from the attachment theory described in the book Polysecure by Jessica Fern, it is observed that people with insecure-avoidant attachment style tend to communicate more in raw logics, while people with insecure-anxious attachment style communicate more in energy. People with both of these attachment styles require sustained reliability from a partner to graduate their attachment style to secure(earned), from where their communication skill improves to a balance of logic as well as emotional energy.

I believe that the crux of the whole of attachment theory developed in the discipline of psychology so far is - Faith in Humanity. How much are we able to rely on other people, and to communicate our needs and requests to them, is a function of our faith in humanity built and broken through experiences from our past.

Rationality has been the foundation of many civil rights movements. Many leaders and thinkers have described rationality and logic as the supreme way to explore and discover truth. Yet, rationality has at times, in different contexts, become the iron cage, breaking from which has become essential at different points in history. Osho viewed intuition as a higher level of existence than intellect, and believed that truth is made evident by the intuition unlocked through meditation, and logics can be created later with the help of intellect to create a bridge between our basic understandings and the truth we have already discovered through intuition. If a flaw is found in a logic of Osho, he won't change his position on the truth he has seen, but would say "i explained it wrongly, let me try again", and then create another logic to bridge the gap between the discovered truth and our previous understanding.

Energy communication is more feminine in nature, and I have observed it more in women than in men. It is an essential life skill that would enable musculine people (men or women) to make sense of communication they exchange with the feminine world.

Human experience is highly subjective, language, words mean different things for different people. We can always learn the styles of communication that help us express ourselves with confidence and also allow others in life to exist as themselves without fear, shame, or guilt. Colour coding of a communication is an important way to make sense of communications which fall outside the realm of rationality. We need to keep one foot outside the iron cage of rationality to bring a measure of flexibility, empathy, and liveliness in the lives of ourselves and others.