Coffee With Rajendra - A Conversational Psychotherapy Experience

Inflicted upon with a physical deformity - a hunched back - Manthara's childhood became a victim of social marginalisation and discrimination. Due to this, she never felt loved or accepted, and as a result - developed a highly selfish, embittered, and prickly personality. She grew up to hate almost everyone around her. She became paranoidic and developed a conflict world-view. She had seen so much worse of the people around her that any possibility of her believing in existence of goodness in others was diminished altogether. Any kindness from anyone looked fake to her. She doubted her lovability so much, that she couldn't trust in any love that she occassionally received from other people. Her lack of self-love made her insecure and doubtful of everyone. She denied other people the right to disappoint her, by lowering her expectations from others to nothing more than abuses. This was her defence mechanism against getting hurt - she expected the worst from people. Despite grow...

Sex has meant different things in different times, in different cultures, to different people. Its utility varying from procreation to belongingness. Let's look at it from two extremes of the Conflict world-view and the Cooperation world-view. From a perspective of power dynamics, humans are deeply power hungry, and are attracted towards things that give them satisfaction of rising in power. Power, here, is a very broad term and means our ability to pursue our wants even in the presence of a resistance - including our ability to control our environment, to change the room temperature. From this perspective, sex has historically been an instrument of violence and domination (wars, slaves, rapes), and a way to satiate our egoistic need of feeling powerful. To 'fuck someone' would mean to subvert them, dominate them, or even hurt them. More subtly seen, hypergamy (anulom vivah), or marrying someone with higher social status than ourselves, is preferred in our culture and is ...