Coffee With Rajendra - A Conversational Psychotherapy Experience

Synergy refers to the capacity of distinct qualities to combine and create something that is much greater than the simple sum of the parts involved. Great things - that are otherwise too difficult to be achieved individually - can be created easier with synergistic cooperation. All this requires is for us to take initiative and explore opportunities without petty fears - to see beauty in differences - to see that these differences can be compatible and complimentary - that they can add value to and refine each other - and to believe that one plus one can be eleven.

We can't truly be ourselves and yet be accepted for our entirety. Our existence has elements that deeply conflict with that of others. These conflicts lie dormant when we stay quiet, suppress ourselves, and conform to norms. These conflicts with others are bound to come to surface when we express our deepest selves.  But, Should the fear of fallout of these conflicts make us suppress ourselves to the extent of dehumanisation? Should we value peace and stability more than our aggregate aliveness? Answers to this are highly subjective, but one truth I'm sure of from my experiences is that: SUPPRESSION IS MORE REGRETTABLE THAN MISCONSEQUENTIAL EXPRESSION. Live, fall, fly. -------------- P.S.: This is not to suggest you to yell at every person you are annoyed by. But to say that it never hurts to communicate what matters to you. First seek to understand, then to be understood. And, in case you fail - Don't regret not being able to explain yourself to someone. We are a plan...

There's nothing as powerful as stories. Stories that we tell ourselves about who we are, about what happened. Our past, as we remember, is a subjective, biased perception of what happened - the stories that we weaved to make sense of how we felt - to make sense of the smiles that we gave even when we felt like dying.  While these stories alter dynamically with the consolations of philosophy, and with time - to suit us, what truly is most effectual in changing our responses to these memories in the most natural and humane manner is overlaying them with new ones - that are not too disconnected from the old ones. We can seek the love of those we fear hate us, gift small tokens of thanks to people who over-invested in us and whose expectations we couldn't meet, do new stupidities. We can add more colours to our experiences, to make them overall bearable, instead of suppressing them with intoxication - like we condition the bitter-gourd with the right amount of salt and spices ...