Coffee With Rajendra - A Conversational Psychotherapy Experience

Aggressive pursuits are often bordered around our insecurities. The thrill of speed is most sought by people who have lived slow for far too long. People with fear of poverty skew their life priorities towards accumulation of wealth. In such aggressive pursuits, one is bound to overshoot - aiming too high, resorting to fast lanes and commiting stupidities therein. The confidence of committing these stupidities is, more often than not, sourced from external validations of one's ingenuity; assurance provides a cushion to fall on. One goes on to accumulate more than he sought in the beginning, only to realise the cost too late. Overshootings are very human, very normal. They make big inventions and human evolution possible. The tendency to overshoot moderates over time naturally in the absence of a stern external opposition that otherwise incites it; like a wild horse is tamed after leaving it loose with a long rope slowly drawn back. By doing deep introspection of what truly matter...

Loneliness is a state of being wherein one is unable to see himself in other people, and is anxious about the validity of his existence. One might feel lonely even when surrounded by several people, friends and well-wishers. Instead of seeing loneliness as an inactive or ineffectual existence, we can see it as a respite from meaningless preoccupation with useless people. As Seneca once said, "All those who call you to themselves draw you farther from yourself". Instead of waiting for loneliness to come by chance, we can proactively dedicate some time to it once in a while. This is not to suggest recedence from social life, but rather to kindle a deep sense of self-love that would enable one to participate in social life with greater confidence and self-assertion. We can see loneliness as an opportunity to spend quality time with ourselves, to read a good book, to listen to our internal multiple selves  andt to develop deep harmony among them. After all, who else can be mor...